After a pregnancy loss, the Mother is in a postpartum state. No matter how far along they were when they lost the pregnancy, their emotional, physical, and spiritual bodies should be treated like they would if they were in postpartum.
There’s a reason why ancient cultures around the world take postpartum so seriously.
There’s a reason why the community gathers to nourish the Mother with healing foods, loving touch, and emotional support.
They know that the Mother’s mental, emotional, and physical health will directly affect the child’s health as she is the main source of their emotional and physical support.
In the case of pregnancy loss, the care should be no different. A woman who is allowed space and supported through her process of grieving is more likely to find healing, strength, and even meaning in her loss.
Grieving is a skill that needs to be taught, developed, and practiced.
Loss is a natural part of life. To learn how to grieve is to learn how to fully face the unknown aspects of life with a sense of bravery and courage. To learn how to grieve is to learn how to live fully.
Many of us enter a process of grieving with the desire for the pain to end or for the story to somehow be erased from our journey.
Perhaps the journey of healing is not to erase an experience from our past, but to fully integrate it into our story so we are no longer moving from a place of fear or pain.
Grieving does not have an end date. Give yourself permission to take as much time as you need to fully acknowledge, mourn, and integrate any experience into your story.
And remember while grieving, you don’t have to do it alone. Human support, loving touch, and compassionately held space can be some of the greatest pillars of strength during a journey of pregnancy loss.