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Many clients and students of mine reach out to me for support with uncomfortable emotions that arise just before menstruation.
In the Zapotec tradition of my teacher, Doña Maria Carmen it is believed that the phase just before menstruation is the most potent and powerful time for the woman.
In the premenstrual phase, the veils between what we previously thought to be true (our current, known reality) and what is ACTUALLY true (the Ultimate truth) thins.
The premenstrual phase offers us the opportunity to look into the depths of our own unconscious mind to see the root cause of why we feel stuck, uninspired, unsupported, frustrated, alone, and all those super yummy feelings that arise right before menstruation 😉
What I’m communicating with you here is that these emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they may be, are coming up for a REASON.
Many of us view our emotions as meaningless or even burdensome. As women, we have been systematically programmed to discount of even shame our emotions that arise as symptoms of ‘PMS’.
Many of us have been taught by caregivers or society as a whole that when we express our emotions we are ‘crazy’, ‘dramatic’, or ‘too much’.
We cannot silence the ‘bad’ while simultaneously opening up to the ‘good’. Only those who have the courage to feel the depths of their pain can truly experience the lightness, love, and joy that awaits on the other side.
As Carl Jung famously shares, “Until we make the unconscious, conscious it will rule our lives and we will call it fate.”
In a world that teaches us to harden ourselves, to be soft, emotional, and expressive is an act of rebellion.
Menstruation offers us the rare opportunity to see parts of ourselves that need tenderness, softness, and compassion. The menstrual cycle opens up a portal of healing for our body, mind, and spirit. The portal is open, it’s up to us to walk through.
If you notice moodiness arise during your menstrual cycle, reflect on these questions…
- What specific phase do you feel the emotions (example: is it right before you bleed, while you’re bleeding, etc)
- If you could label the sensation or mood, what would you call it? (example: frustration, loneliness, grief, etc)
- Do you notice if it’s the same emotion that arises each time? If you answered yes, what is your experience of this emotion and how comfortable do you feel accepting it as a part of your current life?
Accept yourself, and your heart will open. When you begin viewing your emotions as messages of wisdom from your inner-body, your menstrual cycle becomes a blessing instead of a curse.